It’s easy to fall into the trap of trying to protect ourselves from the hurt we experienced in previous relationships by keeping our eyes peeled for all the warning signs in this new, potential partner: the infamous red flags.
But perhaps those red flags might not be where we think they are
You might be asking why I’ve decided to tell you about a plant. I’m telling you about a plant, because it’s the very first plant I bought. And just a few months ago it was dying! Also, it reminded me of hope and I’ve been wanting to tell that story as well.
Millennials are a generation that was told they could be anything. Astronaut, no worries. Pilot, of course. President, sure. You just had to put your mind to it. But as we all get older the truth reveals itself. We can be a lot of things, but sometimes what we want we cannot be.
A close friend of mine recently experienced a great loss and it shook me to the core. I was sad for her, the pain I knew she would have to face, the loss I felt as well, but also (and this freaked me out) the realisation that there was nothing I could do or say to take any of that away.
Even when we feel hopelessly miserable, we are not the only ones experiencing it. The friend who always turns up with a smile may just be too afraid to talk about the struggles in their life because of the way we respond. But sharing is important and healing, so here are some things to keep in mind through 2020 when speaking to someone who’s going through a hard time.